Test your knowledge of stepfamilies by taking our short lighthearted quiz.
Answer TRUE or FALSE to the following questions. The answers and further explanations are give below - no cheating now.....
1. Attachment between the stepparent and their stepchildren needs to happen as quickly as possible
TRUE / FALSE
Children aged 9 to 15 usually have the most difficulty in adjusting to
the new stepfamily TRUE / FALSE
Children of divorce and remarriage are always
TRUE / FALSE
4. The stories and myths about wicked stepmothers do not affect today's stepmothers TRUE / FALSE
It is not unusual for a stepfamily to take at least 4 years to feel
like a solid family unit. TRUE / FALSE
It helps stepfamily adjustment if the non residential parent
withdraws TRUE / FALSE
Stepfamilies formed after a parent dies are
Part time stepparenting is easier than when the children live with you
all the time TRUE / FALSE
A strong couple relationship is an important part in forming a strong
stepfamily TRUE / FALSE
Question 1: FALSE
won't happen straightaway. All new relationships take time to form and
become strong and the older the children, the longer the process. Try
not to hold any unrealistic expectations for developing a parental role
with your children at the beginning of the relationship, let things
develop slowly and naturally. Stepfamilies take time to adjust and
establish their own ways of doing things.
Question 2: TRUE
children have a longer history with biological parents. They can be
very egocentric – eg. YOU have messed up MY life. They can also be
embarrassed by divorce and remarriage and worried about what others will
think. Older children are also the most susceptible to loyalty
conflicts, they are more aware of relationships and what they mean.
Younger children think more simplistically and are more inclusive. They
can easily love everyone!
Question 3: FALSE
is important to know that most children (more than 85%) in all family
types do not have severe dysfunction (eg. academic failure, chronic
Question 4. FALSE
have an effect on everyday life. Stepparents are generally portrayed
very negatively in fairy tales. Some stepmothers have been known to try
and over compensate to avoid being labelled the ‘wicked stepmother’
Question 5. TRUE
Instant love simply does not exist. This is an unrealistic expectation and one which you need to avoid.
Question 6. FALSE
some co-parenting relationships can be very challenging and stressful
for the adults, it is very important that children have contact with
both their biological parents where possible. When a child has no
contact with their other parent, they may build fantasies about them.
Unless there is abuse, a child benefits from contact with both parents.
Question 7. FALSE
A new stepparent may have a very difficult time competing with the idealized memory a child holds for a parent who had died.
Question 8. FALSE
parenting when children don't live with you all the time can be even
more challenging than if stepchildren live full time in the household.
Roles are often ambiguous and part time stepparents may find it
particularly difficult in enforcing disciplinary issues with their
Question 9. TRUE
couple relationship is the newest and therefore the most vulnerable
relationship in the family. It is the heart of the stepfamily, since it
created the family. Building strength in the couple relationship helps
to keep the family strong as a whole.